Tuesday, March 25, 2008

Happy (Belated) Easter!!!

Okay, so I'm a little behind with the post, but I wanted to say Happy Easter to all those who might happen upon my blog. :)

This Easter we went and visited the ILs, which was a nice trip. However, the entire time, I didn't spend ANY time really thinking about the true meaning of Easter. I honestly want my children to grow up in a church, knowing and focusing on the meaning of the religious holidays. How did I get so far away from my Christianity? I know it started with college--I had a church at home that I loved, but never really clicked with one on campus...and still haven't put forth any effort to find one in Columbus. That really should change. Of course, it's not going to change this coming weekend or probably the next...but DH and I have both always said that we want our children to have a church. Church was a focal point in my growing up, but wasn't for DH and I want to make that a priority when we have kids...which probably means we should start "shopping" for a church pretty soon!

Anyway, my point is that Easter is a very special time in the Christian faith and I want to recognize this day and the beauty that Christ has risen and is now seated at the right hand of God. In His death, our sins are now able to be forgiven and that is the greatest gift that anyone can ever give. Thank you, God, for sacrificing your Son so that my sins can be forgiven.

Thursday, March 20, 2008

Is my uterus in my thighs????

No? It's not? Then why, pray tell, am I having excruciating cramps in my thighs in addition to my stomach and back????

I'm experiencing the worst cramps I've had since I was in college. I spent time in the fetal position this morning, waiting for the ibuprofen to kick in. Ugh. And so AF is here with a vengence.

Had first pregnancy "scare" since going off the pill. Of course, now it isn't so much of a scare as a "hey, we didn't plan it that way". :) (this may be TMI--you've been warned) My first cycle was 33 days, my second, 29, so I thought this month would be a really normal 28 day cycle. Not so. Yesterday was cycle day 30. I had spotted for a few days, but actually pretty much stopped spotting by yesterday. I thought--wow, there's not really a chance I could be pregnant, but... So I called DH and told him I'd wait for him to get back to test. No need for that now! But it's okay--all is still going according to plan.

On the subject of weight loss, though, I'm down another 1.2 pounds WITH PMS bloat. I was really excited. The BEST part is that, with those 1.2 pounds, I am officially down 50 pounds from my max weight. Of course, you get a sticker once you hit 5 pounds lost with WW...and I'm at 4.8. SIL got to her 10 pound mark, though, so she got her ribbon :) We were hoping to hit our milestones together, but it's okay--I'll crush that 5 pound mark next week.

I do have to keep reminding myself that I won't lose like so many of these ladies who are losing 10 pounds in two weeks at the meetings...I've been working to lose weight for a really long time. So 1-2 pounds a week is just fine by me!

Thursday, March 13, 2008

The numbers are in.....

.......(drum roll, please)...........





I lost 3.4 pounds my first week!!! Woohoo!!!!

I know I can't keep that up and that's fine, but I'm just excited that changing up how I'm eating has made that big of an impact. I hope I continue to see results. :)

Tuesday, March 11, 2008

I hate to admit it...

...but I did it.

I have always been one who wanted to be a rebel. But I'm not. I know that. But I hated Dave Matthews b/c all my friends loved him. I hated Labyrinth and Princess Bride because my friends loved them. And I hate Weight Watchers because it's the popular thing here at work. (I also hate Weight Watchers because they don't *really* teach how the points are calculated and want people to think in terms of points. It might work to help lose weight, but most people aren't really thinking about the "calories in=calories out" model)

Anyway, I joined. I'm doing it under protest, but I'm giving it a shot out of frustration of not losing weight. I think most of the frustration because I'm not eating enough and possibly b/c I was eating too much peanut butter each day. With the way I was counting my food, peanut butter counted as a protein, so it was basically free. In moderation. Well, I was having at least 4 T a day...probably more. I had it on toast in the morning and then with fruit/celery in the afternoon....probably a bit too much now that I look at it. Anyway, I'm not losing weight. And I should be. I'm freaking 228 pounds for goodness sake--how can I not lose weight when I work out 4 days a week and cut my food intake???? *sigh*

So I went to my first meeting with my SIL last Wednesday. The meeting was weird...not a big fan. But now I'm officially signed up for 10 more weeks. So I'm doing it. DH and I are counting points and trying to stick with it as much as possible. I'm not eating all my points every day, but I'm trying to really hard. I really, really am. Just need to adjust and eat a bit more during the day, I think.

I go back for my 2nd officialy weigh-in on Wednesday night. I hope I've lost something and continue to lose something. It seems like I've been losing and gaining the same 5 pounds for about 6 months now. And that isn't much fun and is really, really frustrating. I'm holding off on working out, even though I love to do it, just to see about cutting the calories and how that does for me. I don't expect a big loss like so many others have seen in their first week, just because I've been watching what I eat for so long now. But we'll see. A pound would be nice.

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Nothing new on the baby front. Still charting, still ovulating, still waiting. This time next week, I will probably be on my last cycle not trying. Holy crap. Which means in about a month and a half we'll be trying to have a baby.

Breathe.

No panic attack......

I want a baby, but I'm so scared!!! How will our parents react? How will our friends react? We'll be the first of my high school and college friends to have a baby...even though all my friends are at least 26. It will change SO much and that scares me to death. But I know that it'll change in a good way, too. We'll be parents. Responsible for a little person's well-being.

Insert panic attack here.

Wednesday, February 27, 2008

That Old Song....

When I was little, I was in Girl Scouts (well, I was a Daisy and a Brownie--then the whole group switched to 4-H). We used to sit in a circle and sing this song:

Make new friends
But keep the old
One is silver
And the other gold

I was singing it this morning and finally figured out why--I made new friends last night.

How does this really apply to baby-making and baby-wanting, you ask? Well, it makes me happy. I feel like I've gotten into this rut of going to work, coming home (sometimes via the gym), cooking dinner, then sitting on the couch for the entire evening with DH, just staring at the TV. I love the time we spend together, I really do. But getting out of the house was good for me last night. Of course, DH had an awful day and that really sucked for him...but I was doing something good for me. And I think I need to start doing more for me.

So this blog has been all about preparing for a baby and I realize now that I need to take better care of my mental health as well as my physical health. Basically, I need to be better to ME. And that's something I haven't done on a regular basis in a long time. So I'm going to start going to book clubs more regularly, going to game nights, making new friends (but of course, keeping the old...), exercising whether DH wants to or not, dealing (shopping at Target & CVS) and revisiting my old hobbies.

Along the lines of the old hobbies...I'm a crafter. Not nearly as much so as some people I know, but I love to cross-stitch, knit, paint, scrapbook...you name a craft and I've probably tried it and have some supplies for it in a room. I think I want to get back into knitting because of the book we read for book club--I miss it. So tonight I'm going to go to JoAnn's and pick out a new pattern and start something for me--not a baby blanket for someone else or something, but maybe a blanket for me...or maybe I'll get a cross-stitch pattern that I can put in our house. :)

So this is going to be my focus for a bit--going to chat with DH tonight about it and hope that we can find some stuff that he loves that he can do to make himself happy, too. I think it can only make us stronger in our relationship and as future parents.

Monday, February 25, 2008

Where does the weekend go?

Another Monday.

Blah.

It was a good, productive weekend, but I feel utterly exhausted sitting here at work. I think I was nesting this weekend. It was weird. I'm tired of living a life full of clutter. So, we worked to simplify our lives. We cleaned out and reorganized the kitchen cupboards. Now I just need a few plastic bins to put some stuff in so we can access it easier. We also cleaned up the basement and organized it--it was a mess. Cleaned the first floor and even made a chore list--just need to dole out responsibilities. It's awful--here I am 26 years old and still not doing chores on a regular basis. Our kitchen gets to be a mess with the dishes, our bathrooms aren't cleaned that often...it's gross. But that's all about to change. I'm hoping our new dishwasher will help take care of the dishes problem. We're both really determined now, but we'll see what this week will bring--that's the true test. If the house doesn't get cluttered during the week, we'll have an easier weekend and a whole lot less stress. I suppose, really, Tuesday will be the test since I'll be at book club almost all night and DH will be working late because of Obama coming to town.

Anyway, I guess I'm just saying that I feel like I'm finally really growing up and taking responsibility in our house. We just have a few more rooms we need to really go over--mostly our bedroom and closet. The biggest problem is that I have a TON of clothes that don't really fit anymore and aren't really all that flattering. However, if I get pregnant, I have a feeling that I'll just want to wear my "fat clothes" for awhile. Therefore, I don't want to get rid of them or have them altered to fit. But I just have too many pairs of pants that don't fit anymore--it's awful. I mean, it should be good, but it's actually really frustrating. So maybe we'll pack them away and then when I need bigger clothes, we can pull them out. Something has to be done--I have clothes ranging size 14 through 20 upstairs and the room is bulging with stuff because of it. So maybe our bedroom will be next weekend's project. Or maybe even during the week this week.

Side note: Got to get back to the gym this week. Haven't been since January, which was before DH got sick. Feeling better, but just haven't gotten back into the habit. It's bad news. I did do the Biggest Loser video this past week, which was good. I have gym clothes at work today and might go tomorrow after work. We'll see--need to discuss with DH. Not sure if when he says he doesn't feel like going I should push him to go or just accept it. Need to ask.

Wednesday, February 20, 2008

No stirrups...thank God

Went to my new OB/GYN yesterday. I don't think, if I had an established relationship with an OB previously, that I would have felt like I needed to go, but since I need to get one before having a baby, I figured now would be a good enough time. I was going anyway, so I took questions.

I wish I had funny stories about it, but it was pretty boring, as far as doctor's appointments go. Got weighed, talked to the medical assistant, talked to the doctor about my questions....and that was it. The doctor did tell me that I can stay on all my meds, including my anxiety and allergy meds, which is SO good. She said she'd only want me to gain 10-15 pounds during pregnancy if I stay the same weight as I am now. That didn't make me feel great...but I suppose it's incentive to try to lose another 10-15 before I get pregnant.

I had been thinking that I would wait until I get down to 200 to get pregnant, but I'm tired of waiting. Lord knows that my body doesn't seem to want to lose any more and I don't think I want to wait for years to lose those 10-15 pounds before getting pregnant.

So what are we waiting on? Well, if I were to get pregnant this cycle, I would be due on Thanksgiving. Umm....no thanks. Pregnant next cycle? We're looking at due on Christmas....again, no. So I guess it'll have to be the next cycle. The cycle starting April 18th or so....which would mean....conceiving a baby right around the time we'll be headed to NYC--which means not having to worry too much about being actually pregnant there...which is good.

Damn it, I think too much. I do. Why can't I just let this happen? Why do I have to plan it all? Because that's who I am, that's why. Damn it.

So what I learned at the doctor:
  • Drugs are okay :) (well, the ones I'm already on)
  • Changes should be made pre-pregnancy so pregnancy isn't so stressful
  • No ab workouts once pregnant
  • Lighter workouts once pregnant
  • No soft cheeses (almost a deal-breaker for me....lol Yeah, right)
  • Flintstones are okay, or could even just increase folic acid in my diet since prenatals make me nauseous
  • I'm allowed to worry through the first pregnancy...but not after that :) Well, she sort of said that...but I'm trying to be prepped so I don't have to worry too much.

So that's that. So over two months still to wait to even start trying. And then who knows how long to wait after that.

Monday, February 4, 2008

Waiting

Assuming this cycle goes as planned (28 days, early enough ovulation for a decent luteal phase...), we're planning to start trying the end of April. Well, that cycle will start the middle of April, if all goes according to the way my cycles used to be.

Of course, last night I'm talking to my mom on the phone and she's talking about our plans to go to NYC for a few days with her and my dad. They want to think about going in May or June. What if we get pregnant at the end of April? What if we're gone when I need to test? What if I were to miscarry while we're gone? What if I've got morning sickness while we're gone?

I overanalyze everything--I know that. But there are so many what ifs and it feels like maybe we should put off trying another month. But why? I always think--why are we in a hurry? Why do we want to start having babies after being married for less than 3 years? But then other times, I just think--Why not? Why not start trying?

Are we REALLY ready for this? Will I ever feel REALLY ready? I don't think so. Some people say they felt ready until they got their BFP (big fat positive--a positive pregnancy test). Others say they felt ready until they got into a certain trimester, or were in the hospital ready to deliver. But me, this overanalyzer, I don't think I'll actually feel ready until that baby is in my arms. While I'm freaking out.

But DH doesn't think about it. He wants a baby--why not now? He doesn't even think about the big changes it's going to make in our lives...or the implications it could have...how miserable I might be travelling, how crappy I could feel for 9 months...

Yes, I'm overthinking. I know I am. But I really just can't help it.

I talked to my co-worker about the trip and whether we should wait to start trying until May. She told me to stop putting it off. She knows I'm a control freak and want to try to plan. But there are so many 'what ifs'...babies aren't easy to truly plan. So we'll still probably start in April. But I still might try for a vacation in early May--just in case.

Thursday, January 31, 2008

I Give My Time

So I'm sitting here at the James Cancer Hospital volunteering. I love the fact that I do this--it makes me feel good about myself. It makes me feel like I'm contributing to society and doing something useful with my time.

What do I do here? I sit at a desk and play online for about 1 hour and 40 minutes of my time. The other twenty minutes every other Thursday I talk to patients' families, update them on surgeries, send family members to rooms to find the patients... The most frustrating thing, however, is trying to keep track of these family members. They wander off and don't mention anything and, of course, the doctor chooses that moment to call or come up here. I then look like a moron because I don't know where the family went. *sigh* Oh well, I do it and try to do my best at it.

Of course, tonight there was the family who has been up since 3 a.m. I feel for them, I really do, but please don't take your frustrations out on the volunteer staff. It's not our fault that your mother doesn't have a room yet and has been in recovery for 3 hours instead of the 2 hours that we tell you or the 1 hour the doctors tell you. The nursing staff doesn't tell us why she's been in there so long, either. I am not employed or schooled in the medical field and have no answers for you besides what I've been told. Please be patient and know that if something were really wrong, someone would tell you. But I can't say all that. I can be sympathetic and try to get as much information as possible for these people. So I do.

Wednesday, January 30, 2008

1/30

Well, here I am, starting a new blog. I love to write out my thoughts because, quite honestly, I think too much and no one wants to listen to it all! So here it is. I'm not sure what all this blog will contain, but I do know that it will all have at least a little to do with ours plans to have a baby. It seems to be the only thing on my mind recently, so everything I do and think have something to do with those plans.

I started another blog sometime last year: http://buckeyechik.livejournal.com/ I'm discontinuing it and starting this one. Hopefully I'll be better about writing here. :)

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1/31

I just wanted to talk about the things I've already started doing to prepare my body for getting pregnant.

~ I haven't had any caffeine besides a sip here and there of pop or a Hershey's Kiss for almost 2 weeks. My PCP is adamant about the negative effects of caffeine on a baby, so I plan to not drink caffeine again until at least the 2nd trimester, if I'm really jonesing for a Coke Zero. I have some Caffeine-Free Diet Coke stocked up--why the hell can't Coke Zero come out with a Caffeine-Free version?

~ I started taking prenatal vitamins about 2 weeks ago. The first week, I had NO problems with them, but after buying a bottle and taking them, I've started feeling nauseous. I felt bad after dinner Tuesday night and then again after dinner last night. I didn't take one last night. We'll see if I continue feeling nauseous. If so, it's not the vitamins and I'll start taking them again. If I do, I'll get rid of these vitamins and try a different brand or maybe some Flintstones.

~ We've been to the gym 3-5 days a week for the past month now. I feel very happy about it and am glad to be getting into better shape. I know how much of a toll carrying a baby may have on my body, so I want it to be prepared. I also would like to lose a bit more weight before getting pregnant. My goal was to be under 200 pounds before getting pregnant, but I'm losing VERY slowly, if at all, so I just might not make it.

~ Lastly, I scheduled an appointment with a prospective OB/GYN. She's in the same clinic as my co-workers' OB. I just want to chat with her about the medicines I'm currently on (3 different ones for allergies) and whether those will be safe to continue taking once I'm pregnant. That appointment is February 17th, so we'll see what Dr. Rohl has to say to me. I'm also curious what she'll say about weight gain. I'm actually pretty healthy for 225 pounds, but I know I'd be healthier if I were lighter. Also want to know about exercise once I'm pregnant. I don't think I'll be able to continue the intensity, know that some exercise is always good, but I don't want to cause myself to miscarry or do anything that might harm a potential baby.

All that said, we're still looking at waiting until late April to start trying. If my cycles revert back to 28 day cycles like they used to be then I think our first cycle trying would start April 13th. If we conceived then, the baby would be due sometime in the middle of January. If we conceived the next cycle, the baby would be due middle of February. We just don't want to start trying, actually get pregnant the first cycle, and have the baby due around the holidays. Even with conceiving during the 4/13 cycle, baby would be due 1/18/09, theoretically. That's a little close to the holidays for my comfort, but I'm okay with it. I'm just ready to start trying :)

Of course, I know everything everyone says--we may not conceive right away, we could miscarry...I'm well aware of all the risks and things. Too aware. I'm a worrywart and read too damn much sometimes. Thus the preparations beginning in January for possibly starting to TTC in April.