We haven't been completely happy with our sitter for awhile, but since Baby Girl was happy there and seemed safe, we left her there. Over time, though, the little things began to add up and took their toll on our family. The sitter always made us feel guilty for having our own opinions and for asking about Baby Girl's day. For instance, last week after I'd asked about her nap that day, "It was a normal day. When it isn't a normal day, I will tell you." I was upset, to say the least--I should be able to ask without getting a bunch of attitude.
But as with everything that we've had happen, we let it roll off our backs. It's just a bit of attitude, right? She's still caring for our daughter.
Over the weekend, we really discussed the care, though, and our concerns. The Hubby and I realized that there are other concerns besides the attitude that we get from her. We've picked Baby Girl up and she's been poopy--and she doesn't poop quietly. We've picked her up twice with scratches on her face that the sitter hadn't even noticed. I seriously don't care what happened--accidents happen--but she should've at least seen it. She sits in her chair all day doing plastic canvas-work while the kids play. She then sells said projects--so she's essentially making money while she's making money watching my kid.
We dropped Baby Girl off on Monday with her bags of frozen breastmilk that the sitter had requested (we had been bringing it daily) and the sitter "wanted to be sure we're decreasing this" and was pushing us to introduce cow's milk. Then we were chatting with the sitter and another mommy who has a 5 month old and is nursing her. The sitter says to the other mommy "Just so you know, I'll be cutting her off at 12 months. It's just too many bags and too much." Um, lady, you have NO right to say that. It was just indicative of her attitude with everything. She pushed Baby Girl to one nap before I think she was ready because it was convenient for her. It's all about what's easy for her.
After the interaction on Monday morning, I sat in the driveway with The Hubby, sobbing. I wanted to go get Baby Girl and take her home with us. I was tired of dealing with this lady. I was DONE.
He convinced me to go to work that day, but I was just emotional all day long (and then got to work to find out I had screwed up something big and spent the entire day working to fix it). We were going to leave our 2-week notice when we picked up, but chickened out. We decided to email her that evening, even though we didn't have anything else lined up. It was really scary, but we knew we could make something work, even if that meant The Hubby working evenings and me working days. We also knew my mom could help out some.
The sitter was closed yesterday, so my mom had her at home.
This morning The Hubby took Baby Girl to the sitter's because he was scheduled to stay late for a meeting. I came into work, but got a call from him as I was driving. The sitter had met him and Baby Girl at the door with all of Baby Girl's belongings (including frozen milk) as well as our checks for the last two weeks. She told him, "You didn't give the right notice." He replied, "What?" She repeated herself and he said, "I'm sorry it has to end this way." She said, "You shouldn't be surprised." and he told her that he was. She then repeated, "You shouldn't be" and closed the door in his and Baby Girl's face.
When I talked to him, I think he was in shock. He took Baby Girl home and they've been spending the day together. We're meeting at 3 to go to a daycare close to work to check it out. I'm a little wary, based on reviews by a coworker (it doesn't sound like Baby Girl would be unsafe--just that I might not have as much control as I would like--some might call me a control freak), but the coworker says she would be safe and happy. We also have leads on a few places that could take Baby Girl when she turns 18 months (in late January). We might use other resources until then or we might put her in this daycare until then, we haven't decided. I've also found someone on Craigs.list this afternoon that sounds great and contacted them.
So it will be for the best in the end, but I'm just SO SO upset and sad that it had to go down like this. I hate to make people upset and hate thinking about what she's saying about us to the other parents. I just don't like drama or confrontation. I KNOW Baby Girl will be better off somewhere else, but getting there is going to be rough. This could be a really rough 2 1/2 months for us. But hopefully when we get to February 1, we'll be a happier, healthier family.
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