Monday, May 10, 2010

Perspective

I know the last time you heard from me (besides my meal planning post), I wasn't doing so well.  I really appreciate the comments that you left and your good thoughts.

Things are better, but not really because of anything I've done.  I just got home that night and really realized how hard DH is trying.  It's not like he's being lazy--he just has so much on his plate with work and some home things.  He does care about baby girl's sleeping, eating, etc.  And I did make a comment to him about how I feel like I have to do and thinking about it all and he just said, "yep".  He sounded upset about it, but since then I feel like he's making a real effort to help me keep track of things and making some of the decisions.

Oh, and to respond to Liz's questions...no, he doesn't get paid any extra for all the weekend and evening work.  He actually has to tell people when he's purposefully taking Saturday and/or Sunday off (like he did this past weekend).  He's salary and gets paid the same amount whether he works 40 hours or 100.  And it's just the expectation that he'll be available whenever anyone needs anything unless he tells them otherwise.  He's the go-to guy around there.  It's frustrating for both of us, but he doesn't feel like he can do anything about it right now.  He is trying to train other people so they can answer calls and do things on their own, so hopefully it will get better soon...

So we're trying.  And it's gotten better for now.  Hopefully we can keep communicating.  I know I tend to shut down when I get frustrated and just take it all on myself.  I feel like if I have to make the effort to tell him what I need, I may as well just do it myself.  But I'm working on that.

3 comments:

Liz said...

Keep making sure he's training everyone he works with! Especially since he's not getting paid any extra. In the end, it's not worth it. I'm glad your frame of mind is a bit better. We've all been there. (((hugs))) Hope you had a happy mother's day!

Danica said...

Hugs!!!

I hope you had a nice Mother's Day.

Cassie said...

Get ready for a bunch of comments from me! I'm so behind...

You and I are so alike -- I do the same thing when I get upset: shut down and just do it all myself. I'm glad you two are communicating better, and man, I really hope he's able to get a break at work soon. No one should have to work that hard!