Thursday, May 21, 2009

So jealous

I'm incredibly jealous of parents who don't have to put their kids in daycare. It seems like I'm surrounded by SO many women who either 1) have family members who can watch their kids full-time or 2) can stay home. I know being a SAHM/WAHM isn't easy work, but I think I would love it and am jealous of those who can do it. Yes, I enjoy my job most of the time, but sometimes I think it would be more rewarding to stay home with my baby, to not miss anything...

There's just no way we could swing one of us staying home. And while that's okay, it still makes me jealous of the people who do make it work or do have family members stay with their child. Both of my coworkers who have little ones (one a little over two and one about 21 months) have a grandma to watch their child. They still pay for it, but it would be so nice to know that someone who loves your baby as much as you do is the one watching it every day.

Making this decision about child care is impossibly hard. I have some friends who have gone through multiple providers in just a year or so. I don't even know where to start looking. I've gotten a list of referrals from Action for Children and am looking through them, but know that checking them out will just mean going with our gut and calling some and asking for references. The possibilities are endless and there are so many ways we could mess this up. I'm scared to make the wrong decision.

6 comments:

Danica said...

I'm sure it's so hard and scary.

Although if it helps..I have a friend who is a SAHM of twins (3 years old) and a 1 1/2 year old and she's begging to go back to work!

crrv said...

It will all work out. Once you find someone that you trust you will feel muich better about the decision.

Liz said...

I have a family member watch dd, but I still want to sah! lol If it makes you feel any better, some days I wish I didn't have a family member watch her. With a daycare there's more structure, they listen to what you want and there's more socialization.

Mandy said...

((HUGS)) I hope and pray that I will be OK if I can't find work and have to SAH, but I feel more scared than grateful. It freaks me out to rely on just one income. I hope you can find a situation that makes you feel comfortable.

Mrs. Hammer said...

Deciding who will care for the most important little person in your life is a big decision. I think your gut instinct will come through for you though. It's that momma bear instinct, right? I'll be praying for your decision in this area.

Oh and I've nominated you for a sisterhood award on my blog - check it out!

Tanda32506 said...

I agree w/ Cassie. The right person makes you feel so much better. I can remember stressing myself out about sitters too, I waited until Tyler was 4wks old before I started looking!! It's not easy, hang in there and just interview them and trust your gut.